Nurturing a Spirit of Reconciliation in Church Leadership

In twenty years time I hope to be remembered as a leader who could reconcile with everyone

As followers of Christ, we're called to live out the principles of forgiveness and reconciliation, not just in our personal lives, but also within the fabric of church leadership and community. In a world where conflicts and disagreements are inevitable, the ability to mend relationships is invaluable, especially for those who are looked upon as shepherds of the flock.

The Heart of Reconciliation

Reconciliation is more than a resolution of a conflict; it's a restoration of relationship. It's not about proving who was right or wrong but about coming together in unity and love, reflecting the heart of the Father. For church leaders, this means creating an environment where past grievances can give way to renewed fellowship and co-laboring in Christ.

The Father's House Initiative

Imagine a church event called "Father's House" - an annual homecoming for those who've wandered away or moved on. It's not a time to rehash old wounds but to celebrate shared heritage in the faith. This initiative is a beautiful illustration of the open arms of the Father, beckoning His children home, regardless of why or how they left.

The Pain of Departure

When a member leaves a church, it can feel like a personal rejection to the leaders. But, burying the pain or harboring bitterness only leads to spiritual decay. Leaders must tend to their wounds, ensuring they don't become spiritual roadblocks to their own growth or to the health of the church.

The Importance of Timing

Reconciliation is often a question of timing. Leaders should routinely extend the olive branch, keeping the doors of reconciliation perpetually open. Each year, each season, is an opportunity for hearts to soften and for the Holy Spirit to work in the lives of both the one who left and the one left behind.

The Role of Self-Examination

Before seeking reconciliation, leaders must examine their own hearts. Are they seeking to win back a brother or sister, or just looking to win an argument? The attitude we bring to the table sets the tone for the outcome.

Five Takeaways for Church Leadership

1. Reconciliation transcends conflict resolution; it's about heart restoration.

2. The "Father's House" concept can serve as a model for annual reconciliation efforts within the church.

3. Leaders must address their own pain from departures to prevent spiritual bitterness.

4. Timing is crucial; keep extending reconciliation, trusting God's timing.

5. Self-examination is key; approach reconciliation with the intent to restore relationships, not to relitigate the past.

Interested in hearing more? There is a great podcast on this, recorded recently with my friend Jonathan Dunning. You can find that here